TEACH CHILDREN NOT TO BULLY OTHERS
Hi wonderful moms…
Bullying behavior that often happens in school not only make an uncomfortable feeling to the victim, even their parents would feel the same too when they found out the fact that their children are a bullying victim in school.
We as mother surely don’t want our children become the victim or the person who did bully. for that i would like to invite all mother to teach their children not to bully their friends. Children often did bully like intimidating their friends because child unable to learn to manage their feeling such as anger, hurt feelings, frustration and other emotions that appeared on themselves. Moreover there’s a possibility child bullying other because the effects from their friend.
We as parents certainly want to keep away our child from bullying behavior. we dont want our children hurt other both verbally or physically. there are some ways so our children wont become the person who did bully ;
1) Tell them that bully is a bad thing
Some of children doing bullying to their friend because they dont know and not realize it. Parents role is so important to tell their children that this action is a bad behavior which would give negative impact.
Besides will be seen bad by friends, also tell them that there’s another penalty they will receive. for example, if they’re doing bullying in school, school’s side wont of course wont remain silent on this case. Child can be dropped out from school or get any serious punishment. bullying isnt a child’s way out from face up their problem in school. you must know how to teach children so they wont chose bullying behavior to solve their problem or looking for recognition from their friends. emphasize that every bad behavior includes bullying must be accounted for. usually children don’t want to admit their fault and that becomes the duty of parents to eliminate that trait.
2) Teach child to accept and tolerance differences
Sometimes bullying happens because there is a difference. to make children not bully their friend who’s different from them, they should understood about differences and learn how to respect other. teach them that mocking someone either because of the appearance, physical or economic status is a bad behavior.
Maybe you need to bring your children visiting an orphanage or community of children with special needs so they can make a direct interaction with different children. therefore they can more feel empathize towards them who are different.
Don’t hesitate to ask how their children’s interactions with their friends to their teacher in school. therefore you can monitoring your child’s behavior when they’re not around you.
3) Develop empathy
Hone empathy can be a shield to children so they not bully other. empathy is ability of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and understanding the emotions of that person’s feelings. if they understand it, of course child doesn’t want to hurt other.
You can develop child’s empathy in any ways, like teach them to donate for disaster victim or pet an animal.
4) Be a good role model for them
Child is a reflection from their parents, that means any action that the parents do usually will be followed by their children. therefore you need to make yourself a good role model.
For example, don’t respond a probem with violence or aggression. when children make mistakes choose step to not give them a physical punishment like hitting, slapping, locked them in for a long time. also dont shout or compare your child with others.
These actions can make children become aggressive because of the difficulty managing their emotions. Instead, you need to face your child calmly and know the right way to discipline them, so that your child can manage their emotions and not bully their friends. For example, applying the time-out method to preschoolers children.
5) Consult with a counselor or psychologist
If you have a difficulty teaching this to your child. Doing consultation with a child counselor or psychologist can be the best way. Especially if children have opposing and aggressive behavior.
The counselor or psychologist will help your child to manage their anger, hurt feelings, and other strong emotions through counseling.
Okay moms good luck …