RESOLVE THE PHENOMEON OF JUVENILE DELINQUENCY
One day I invited parents of student who has done some school violations. Before we went to the point of the problem, I asked them about how their child’s attitude and behavior at home. When we reached the point of the problem, the parents got surprised, they did not believe the bad behavior their child has done, and passionately they denied,
“…there is no way my child has done stuff like that. It obviously that his friend just accused him without any reason. My child is a quiet child, obedient, never done something odd or terrible and as his parents I always gave him a full attention.”
Sample response above is parents’ reaction when they found out their child has done some school violations. Not a few parents whom give such a response. As a Guidance and Counseling teacher, I can understand the parents who defend their children. After I gave them some evidences about their child behavior, parents will gave various responses. Some expressed annoyance and anger over the child’s behavior, others cried regretting why it had to happen. But what they emphasized was the phrase,
“What am I lacking as parents? I’m not lacking in fulfilling the needs of my child. Why did my child do that? It’s a real shame for me as his parents.”
This such of phenomenon is a small example of how parents’ reaction when they found out their child’s behavior outside of the home, especially at school. Parents with their confidence convey that they do know well their child inside or outside. They thought, their child’s behavior at outside of home, especially at school is as the same as when they’re at home.
Parents who thought that they already be the best parents for their child, often express their emotions by blaming the school which is not take it serious on educating the child, blaming their child’s friends because they bring bad influence for their child, even there is parent who blame each other, like the husband blame his wife, and vice versa. This attitude actually kind of give me some hardship in reaching an agreement with parents in order to find solutions to solve their child’s problems. Sometimes it makes me think that the first people who need counseling are the parents.
So, the forms of juvenile delinquency consist of:
1. Ordinary delinquency, for example, the child likes to fight, skips school, likes to wander, and leaves the house without saying goodbye, drives a motorbike or car without a driver’s license.
2. Delinquency that leads to crime, namely stealing goods or seizing other people’s belongings, harassing or asking for money with threats, threatening, rape and physical violence.
3. Special delinquency, premarital sex, free sex, gambling, drug abuse and illegal drugs.
Then how to deal with juvenile delinquency?
In how to resolve the juvenile delinquency, it takes the cooperation of the participation of families, teachers, and the community as well as the intention of the youth to resolve juvenile delinquency which is getting worse every day There are several ways that can be done to prevent and resolve juvenile delinquency, including:
1. Parents evaluate and improve themselves in giving love and attention to their child in any case.
2. Parents provide sufficient religious provisions, starting from early, starting from worship, visiting places of worship (according to their respective beliefs), and others.
3. Parents, teachers and the community help adolescents in building their self-restraint so that they won’t easily influenced by the bad influences given by their peers and associates.
4. Parents, teachers and other adults in their environment become good models and figures for them. Failure to face role identity and weak self-control can be prevented and overcome through exemplary principles. Adolescents must be able to get as many adult figures as possible who have gone well beyond their previous teenager years. They even managed to improve themselves even though they had previously failed to reach this stage.
5. Get to know your child’s friends as well as you can, teach them to choose the right and good social environment so they won’t easier to get entangled in deviant behavior.
6. Provide supervision and not restrain youth. Do not forbid children to hang out with their same age friends. If you let your child hang out with playmates who are not at their age, then of course their lifestyle would be different. So their lifestyle would change according to their playmates. Intensive supervision that needs to be done is on communication media such as television, radio, internet, cellphones, and others.
7. Support your child’s hobby as long as it is still in a positive context. Don’t prevent any hobbies or opportunities that can help your child develop on their own.
8. Be a friend to your child, it is important to have a role as a comfortable place to vent for your child. So, when they have a problem, you will be the place for them to lean on and to tell. Be part of their solution to the problem, not add to the problem. Listen carefully when they talk about the problem, look them in the eye, says what you can help with the problem.
9. Continue to improve family condition, so the harmonious, comfortable, and communicative family conditions will be created.
So those are some ways to deal with juvenile delinquency that can be done. Of course juvenile delinquency can be resolved properly if the roles of parents, teachers and other adults have been running properly. In addition, it takes a strong commitment from the youth themselves not to fall into the wrong associations that will only harm their future. Hopefully information above can be useful and helpful for you.
Good luck, Moms ….