GET TO KNOW THE CHILD’S PERSONALITY TYPE
Hi wonderful moms….
Being parents, we must know the personality of our child. Like how we take care for plants, we must know the characteristics of the plants so that we don’t treat them wrong. Instead of the plants growing well, it makes our beloved plants die.
For example, we maintain a cactus, we must know the characteristics of cactus that survive in dry and hot locations. If you water it too much, it will make the cactus rot and eventually die.
So are treating our children, we must also know the personality types so that we can treat our children according to their personality types. The following are personality types that parents can use as a guide for treating their children:
1. CHOLERIC PERSONALITY TYPE
a. A choleric person has such a strong desire, so that it is difficult to be influenced and seduced. Often looks like a stubborn person and always makes sure that other people can understand what they want.
b. Is a very independent, active, encouraging, nimble, reliable and task-oriented personality type.
c. Classified as a dynamic leader and has high ambition, doesn’t easily give up in achieving their goals. They like challenges, don’t want to accept “no” answers and always try to find ways to be able to complete each of the existing challenges. For some people, this attitude can be interpreted as an attitude of defiance, but the real intention is not the case. This is a natural impulse that exists in choleric.
d. The dynamic character in a choleric person is they also seen in the way of how they expressing their emotions, sometimes looks explosive but in a short time you can control it, as if it never happened.
e. Choleric personality type has a need for challenge, choice and control. They will appear to be a problem solvers and perform optimally under these conditions, even though it’s a temporary solution that can change anytime.
f. They often appear proud and show power/domination, also they want to show their confidence. Choleric can be very “naughty” at times, they could have some hidden plans. They know what they’re going to do but they don’t want people around them know about it. They are very good at manipulating behind the scenes.
g. The negative side of the choleric personality type is that they are less able to show sympathy, warmth and empathy openly to others so that they seem cold and stiff. Choleric person can be cruel and sarcastic. They can destroy other people with just the words they speak. Choleric person is easy to become into someone who is arrogant and seem arbitrary and can fall into a dictator.
2. SANGUINE PERSONALITY TYPE
a. Sanguine person is full of inspiration, very expressive, have the natural ability to influence others in their own fun ways, adaptable and attractive personalities. They’re able to make the atmosphere in a room lively and fun. They know a lot of people. They usually know a lot of important people.
b. They are great speakers and can make us believe almost of anything they said. Sanguine likes to talk candid and direct. Sometimes they often do act before do think.
c. They whose sanguine personality type is a dreamer and originator of ideas, tend to be optimistic, happy to be considered as important person. But don’t like a monotonous work. Sanguine often looks unstable and undisciplined. This is due to his overly expressive and easy going attitude. Because they are very relaxed, carefree and lack discipline.
d. Sanguine person is very impressionable. They’re very out-going and they also a follower too. They have such an overwhelming urge for everyone to like them, so that they will be willing to do anything to please other people.
e. Sanguine loves compliment. Praise will encourage them to work because they feel trusted and will try to please us. If we get mad at them, then they will stop trying. Sanguine has an egocentric lifestyle. Every time they devise a plan they will think only from their perspective. They have the principle that if they like the plan then other people will like it too.
f. Sanguine is so interested in what other people do, so that they neglect on their own duties. Sanguine is not interested in completing a task, they are more interested in how everyone involved in the task is related to one another. The Sanguine people view of people’s relationships is a very important thing.
g. The basic needs of the Sanguine personality type are recognition and appreciation. A Sanguine is afraid of losing friends or losing popularity. As a result, they are prone to temptations or trials and less be able to be assertive. They will do things that may conflict with their values in order not to lose their friends and popularity. That is what causes sanguine to often get stuck in false self-esteem.
h. Sanguine has an “unreliable” nature. They very often act inconsistently. Sanguine wants people to like them, so they don’t want to disappoint others. They often make promises without checking if there are other appointments at the same time.
3. PHLEGMATIC PERSONALITY TYPE
a. Phlegmatic is a personality type that liked by parents as they were still a kid. They are obedient and peace-loving. Phlegmatic are shy, polite, have good rules in association and don’t like to stand out, but will still be happy if they get praised and appreciated. They like crowds and fun but those things are not centered on them.
b. In doing their job, they like to work on it step by step, one thing at a time. They are happy and skilled at doing things that are monotonous or fixed and without a lot of variety, which for Sanguine and Choleric can be quite tedious.
c. Phlegmatic is a person who want to please others, provide support, help and love to serve others. They hate conflict and are unable to say “no”. So it makes them often appears to be inconsistent/wishy-washy and can be used to achieve other’s certain goals. They are often easily “led” to do things they really don’t want to do, buy things they don’t want to buy and so on. This is because phlegmatic want to always be loved, liked and supported by others.
d. Phlegmatic likes sentimental, routine, static thing and don’t like surprises because it makes them feel good and they could predict what will happen in the future. They know what they like. They have their favorite movies, memories and moods. They like to keep their favorite toys.
e. Phlegmatic can be a great leader and has a diplomatic nature. They lead as coaches and not as dictators. If they lead a company, they would rather show their employees how to work than just tell them how to work. As a diplomats, they could see things from another person’s point of view. They are also very patient and can also be very humorous.
f. Phlegmatic is an audience type and appear passive. They don’t like to stand out and work from behind the scenes. This is because there is a need for security in themselves. As a result, phlegmatic appear to be people whose lack initiative because they are basically afraid of making mistakes and disappointing others. To be able to move a phlegmatic person, use respect and direction. These two keys will encourage phlegmatic to do more than what we expected.
4. MELANCHOLY PERSONALITY TYPE
a. Melancholy personality type is an excellent planner type. They do and follow the plan. In making plans they’re very careful, detailed and supported by existing facts. This is because a melancholy is very careful, doesn’t like to make mistakes and tends to be suspicious. This trait makes them often appear moody and depressed.
b. Melancholy likes to calculate the profit and loss with the utmost precision and likes to observe the details. They tend to think in the “basics” method. They like data, facts, figures and charts. The more detailed and complete the information you provide, the more they like it. If they ask a lot of questions doesn’t mean they investigate you, but more because of the urge to be able to get a lot of data from you.
c. Melancholy’s powers are usually they’re very smart. They’re always thinking of looking for better ideas. They often grow with developing an existing idea and make it better. They have instinct and talent as inventors.
d. Melancholy has a critical thinking. They can analyze a situation much better than other personality types. They have the extraordinary ability to “see behind the scenes” and understand what is really going on.
e. Melancholy demands “following the rules”. They follow instructions closely and don’t understand why other people can’t do the same. For them, rules are made to be obeyed and not to be broken.
f. Melancholy is not a pressing person and doesn’t need to be a group leader. It’s okay for them to just be a follower as long as they can be happy and calm. They like to be around people who are cheerful and open. They don’t mind if they don’t get the credit for what they’ve done, but don’t try to throw all the blame on them. They will make you stunned silent at a thousand languages to hear his rebuttal which is full of perfect detail.
g. Melancholy likes to be right, convincing and likes accuracy, it’s not because they feel they are better than others but more based on the principle of the truth. Based on this principle, melancholy is often seen as a person who is rigid and difficult to see the point of view of others. They will not believe a story until they can prove that it really happened. As a result, they often have difficulty for changing their thinking or being persuaded to change course of thought. We have to prepare data and facts to support our opinions, otherwise they will tend to underestimate.
h. Melancholy also tends to be conformist (likes to follow what the average person does) and conservative, especially if the method they want to use has proven to be successful, they tend don’t to want to use other methods. They prefer repetitive and monotonous work because they prefer to stick to what they already know, seek it safe and be consistent.
i. Melancholy loves neatness and harmony. For them, outward appearance reflects a state inside. Everything must be arranged as neatly as possible and adapted to the existing situation.
j. Melancholy tends not to be sociable, they’re often moody and in a bad mood. This is because they want to always be right so that if they encounter challenges/obstacles/trials, they tend to react quickly with negativity and don’t like it. It is such a heavy burden to always carry that causes melancholy to become depressed and gloomy often. They like to take things personally.
k. Melancholy is also very vindictive, self-centered and sensitive. It is not easy for melancholy to forgive someone, and they really dislikes being blamed for what they see as a right thing. They can be very patient waiting for the right time to take revenge in kind.
Okay moms, those are some of personality types that we have to know. Hopefully it can be useful for us to know better what kind of personality type our child has. Nothing is better, because each personality type has its own advantages. Knowing and recognizing our child’s personality type is a must, so that we don’t treat it wrong.
For example, when dealing with a child with a choleric personality type, a choleric child tends to be difficult to be controlled, instead they are the ones who want to control. They don’t like a yelling and being yelled at, curses and being rude will not make them better, instead they will be more violent. Appreciate them and don’t be condescending, and it will be easier for us to handle them. Unlike a sanguine, in treating them we must provide a strict control, monitoring and evaluation. While, dealing with a phlegmatic, we have to be extra patient because they are slow in dealing with change if they feel comfortable. For children with the melancholy personality type, we must to be extra careful because emotionally these children are easily to fragile, have wounds, tend to be difficult to forgive and vindictive.
Hopefully we can be great parents for our children….